I am glad I am not 16 anymore

I watch the roller coaster that my grandson Jeffrey rides every day.  It is so hard to be 16 and in love.  My hope for Jeffrey and Maggie is that they just slow down and enjoy life every day.  It is so complicated and I know from life experience that we all feel very different at 16 then we do at 20, 30, 40 and 50 and see things very different at each of these points in our life.  It is so important to make choices after lots of praying, thinking and just stepping back to look at our situation.  It is also very important to seek the counsel of those we love who will love us enough to tell us the truth even when it hurts.  I am taking pizza over to visit with the boys on Thursday and am so looking forward to it.  It makes me sad because they family has been so stressed and strained and we will rebuild with God's help.

Spencer is growing up

We had birthday cake with Spencer and his family on his birthday Monday October 11, 2010.  He is getting so grown up in some ways and the visit went well.  I am so proud of my boy Spencer and know he will do great things in his future.

Life is hard for Jeffrey

Jeffrey has been dating Maggie for over a year and I know he loves her very much.  I want him to be happy and between his health issues and the issues involved with Maggie I see him spending lots of time sad and bogged down with all the feelings he faces-insecure, anger, doubts about his and Maggie's future.   I would like to see him just relax and enjoy this time with Maggie and not rush into things.  Looking back over my life I have some regrets and as well all want the best for those we love I want him to escape this life without regrets and pain.
NOT GOING TO HAPPEN!!  I love you Jeffrey.

Spencer is very special indeed

Spencer's 13th birthday is on October 11 which is next week.  I tried to call him tonight but his phone was off.
I will try again  tomorrow and if I don't get an answer I will call Jeffrey to ask him to have Spence call me so we can discuss what he wants to do about that birthday coming up.  Having Asberger's Syndrome  certainly creates many interesting conversations with him many which make me laugh out loud.  One day this past summer he met me at the car when I pulled in and told me he had a new girlfriend.  He then said "She is fat  as hell" but I like her.  I asked him if he had told her that she was fat and his response was "Yes  Why"  That's my boy.  It is hard to believe he will be a teenager -it seems like he was just a little guy not that long ago.

Spencer is very special indeed

Spencer was born after many weeks of false labor for his mom.  He was born really fast and was placed in a incubator for his first five days due to jaundice and he also had some seizure activity due to his nervous system not being completely mature.  He settled in to his family life quickly and was a easy and good baby.  If I remember correctly his parents could were not sure if they were going to name him Kyle or Spencer.  Well the rest is history.  His older brother was just three years old when Spencer was born and he was so cute how he would hold  him with help and he loved his little brother very much.

The birth of my grandson Jeffrey Paul Wiley

Jeffrey was my first grandson.  He was born five weeks early and arrived in this world my sleepy healthy baby and I was so proud.  I remember the day before he was born-his mom had been struggling with preterm labor for months and she was in a really bad place health wise and it appeared that the baby not yet born would be in peril.  His mom was so upset and depressed I went shopping and got tons of little boy clothes from newborn to size two which looked huge at that time.  I use to get such a kick out of seeing him wear them as he grew.  I remember he was three weeks old before he would open his eyes so I could see them.  He used to cry a lot and was the most beautiful baby.  I watched him for the first time when he was ten days old and his mom brought me four pages of instructions on baby care for the night.  What fun we had.